Wise men say that when we get angry and cannot control ourselves, we pollute the atmosphere around us.
The following story tells of what happens when we get angry.
Every day, a wise man went down to the river Ganges to take a bath. On one such day, he saw a group of family members shouting at one another on the river’s bank. With a smile on his face, he turned to his disciples and asked them:
“Why are these people shouting?”
The disciples mulled over the question for a while, then one of them answered: “They are screaming because they are angry.”
“But why shout at someone who is standing right next to you? You can say what you want in a calm manner,” said the master. The other disciples also shared their opinions, but were not satisfied with their answers. Then the master spoke again:
“When two people are angry with each other, their hearts are far away. In order to hear one another, they need to shout. The angrier you become, the louder you need scream.
But what happens when two people love each other? They do not shout, but instead talk softly, for their hearts are very close. There is no distance between them, or if there is, it’s minuscule. And what happens when their love grows stronger? They no longer talk, they whisper. Their love for each other draws them even closer together. And with time, they no longer need to whisper. They simply look at each other and understand. That’s how close two people get when they love each other.” The master paused for a moment and continued:
“When you argue, you should not allow your heart to distance itself. You should not utter the words that would separate you from another. But if that were to happen, the distance would get so big, you wouldn’t be able to find your way back to each-other.”
When I’ll realise that I’m causing harm to myself, I will begin to change. Anger is one of the worst diseases of the mind. It shows itself in various forms, such as quarrelsomeness, hatred, defamation, malevolence, insidiousness, searching for flaws and fault in others, complaining, being grumpy, scolding, envy, jealousy, ill thoughts about others, to offend others, mockery, resentment, revenge, haughtiness, condemnation, and generally it is known for “viperish tongue”.
/ From the book “Blooming of Consciousness”